中文简介：

入围2022年美国国家书评人协会“**本书”奖（又名约翰·伦纳德奖）的候选名单“……一旦被欲望所支配，我不知道接下来会发生什么。如何让融化的东西不融化？如何将磨碎的粉末重新变回人？这个想法指出了一种我不具备的知识：如何在爱的同时不失去自我。”从阿格尼丝·马丁（Agnes Martin）的抽象画到安妮·卡森（Anne Carson）的《厄洛斯的苦乐人生》，再到弗兰克·海洋（Frank Ocean）的《金发女郎》，这本出色的首部非虚构作品探讨了恋爱的状态，无论是与一幅画还是与一个人恋爱。拉里萨·范姆（Larissa Pham）为现代人的亲密关系创造了一幅支离破碎的画像，在脆弱和不安中获得了胜利。这是一本关于距离的书：我们为了逃离自己或那些伤害我们的人所走的路程，以及同床共枕的两个人之间可能存在的不可逾越的鸿沟。

英文简介：

Shortlisted for the 2022 National Book Critics' Circle John Leonard Prize for best first book'...I don't know what comes after, once I decide to let desire have its way with me. How to un-melt the melted? How to turn the ground powder back into a person? This idea points to a knowledge that I don't have: how to love without losing the self.'Plumbing the well of culture for clues about love and loss - from Agnes Martin's abstract paintings to Anne Carson's Eros the Bittersweet to Frank Ocean's Blonde - this brilliant work of debut nonfiction explores the state of falling in love, whether with a painting or a person.Pham creates a perfectly fractured portrait of modern intimacy, triumphant in its vulnerability and restlessness. Pop Song is a book about distances: the miles we travel to get away from ourselves, or those who hurt us, and the impossible gaps that can exist between two people sharing a bed.